thanks doc!!

How life sometimes just gets you down.

All of us live in a number of different spheres. Maybe a better way to think about it is that all of us have a number of different roles and the older we get the more roles we tend to acquire until we get old enough and we start having fewer of them. But that is another discussion.

For the moment let's take a young woman who is a daughter and a sister at home; a church member and leader in church groups in her church; an executive assistant and fellow employee at work; a friend and confident in her social life; perhaps even a writer and poet in her private life; and perhaps even a lover and partner in her emotional life.

Each of us can handle things not going wonderful in one or more areas if some important areas are going okay. We tend to make work and our love life two of the most important areas and we can generally handle, though not necessarily happily, disappointment in one or the other but not both at the same time. If we ever feel that we are failing or not doing well in both at the same time we feel ever so lonely. When your heart is breaking you can immerse yourself in work, even volunteer work, just to keep yourself busy and productive. But if work becomes a negative as well it is like there is no safe place. When you have a partner crap at work gets soothed away with a shower, a meal, a cuddle and the realignment of what is and is not important in one’s life.

The hardest time is when those two big areas seem to be not going well and you do not have the most supportive family :(